I HAVE THE RIGHT:
- To choose who I am with and when.
- To go only as far as I want sexually and then stop.
- To verbalize what I want sexually.
- To say “No” or “I don’t want to” if my partner wants to do something I don’t.
- To ask and know if my partner has a sexually transmitted disease.
- To have safe sex to prevent disease transmission or pregnancy.
- To be true to my values and beliefs about sex and sexuality.
- To have my values, beliefs, feelings, and limits respected by my partner.
- To be sober before and during a hookup.
- To express my opinions about what I mean by “hooking up” instead of accepting others’ definitions.
I HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY:
- To ask my partner what he/she wants to do sexually.
- To listen for my partner’s answer before moving forward with my wants and needs.
- To respect my partner’s values, beliefs, feelings, and sexual limits.
- To stop when my partner tells me or gives me a sign that he/she is not comfortable with what is happening.
- To be honest and forthcoming if I have a sexually transmittable disease or risk of pregnancy.
- To not spread rumors that could damage the reputation of my hookup partners.
- To communicate my preference for safe sex practices and have supplies available if needed.
Jackie Deitch-Stackhouse, June 2006